Sunday, May 18, 2008

Groudhog's Day

Yeah, I know that was actually back in February. But, wasn't there a movie by that title a decade or so ago - with Bill Murray? I don't think I have actually seen it from start to finish, but the premise of the movie struck a chord with me tonight as I found myself standing at the kitchen sink at 10pm yet again unloading and then loading the dish washer. It's been pretty much the same thing every night lately. It's a bad habit. Bathe the kids around 6:30; bed (for them) between 7-7:30; fall onto the couch, sitting for the first time in hours, my mind going numb in front of the TV. About 9:30-ish I start feeling pretty bad about the state of the kitchen and table, which is precisely what led me tonight to think of the movie Groundhog's Day. Am I singing anyone else's song? I've seriously got to stop sitting down before the kitchen is clean....or invent a self-unloading dishwasher. They make self-cleaning ovens, so it's possible, right? I'm pretty sure this is compounded by the fact that Michael is in Malawi, Africa leading a mission team, so I am pulling double duty. I'm grateful to have my parents who live in town and a wonderful people from our church who want to help out (just have to remember to let them).

The kids are doing fine. Growing, changing, doing new things all the time. Their little universe is off-kilter right now, so I'm having to put up with some extra whining and other odd behaviors. I'm dealing with some big time "What's mine is mine, what's Andrew's is REALLY mine, and what's Mommy's could be mine if I snatch it before she sees me" behavior from Sarah. (She actually took all of his birthday gifts, carried them to her room, and shut the door the day of his party.) I'm pretty sure that it is normal for a girl who is going on 3 soon. At the rate Andrew is growing and learning to be more steady on his feet, it won't be long before he'll be able to defend himself and retrieve his toys and snacks - possibly using force. He is loving the freedom of upright mobility, although he is not yet an accomplished walker. He has also decided to turn me prematurely gray with his new found climbing skills.

Before I make Andrew out to be a saintly baby boy and Sarah a less then, um, saintly daughter, I must say Andrew does plenty to torment her. Andrew rarely stays still long enough to sit in my lap. However, if it is occupied by Sarah, he is there in a flash and he is not going to give up the coveted spot for a very long time. Sarah is also the perfect height to grab on to when he is about to lose his balance. And the pigtails are way too tempting. Poor girl. Sibling rivalry....dates all the way back to the very first set of sibling....so I should expect nothing less here - lol. It's all good, though. I believe in God's grace because he has blessed me with these two souls, and I didn't do anything to deserve that.

We're still working out the last of our summer plans, but there are two things I am really looking forward to. One is Vietnam Family Weekend/Heritage Weekend. For the past 5 months I have served on a 6 member committee for our adoption agency planning the event. I've arranged the catering through a fabulous VN restaurant here in town and I've met with a local VN pastor of a VN church in town. He is going to help coordinate members of his church who will come to the event representing the local Vietnamese community.

The other thing that I am REALLY looking forward to is resigning from my job and staying home full time in mid-July. Even though I have only been working 20 hours/3 days a week at our church, it has felt like too much with two little ones so close in age. Combined with Michael's unpredictable pastoral schedule, it is just not working. Bottom line, I've always wanted to stay home with my children. My mom stayed home all the way through my high school years and I have always appreciated her decision to do that. When I taught second grade I always knew I would want to be the lady that was the homeroom mom. I loved those women! They were lifesavers. I know staying home isn't for everyone and it doesn't come without different kinds of stresses (full time mommy duty, end of paychecks, etc.). But, we believe this is the best decision for our family. Hurry up July! I'm ready.

3 comments:

The Efirds said...

I completely understand about how you feel about staying home. I really enjoyed my job but I felt I was missing so much by not being home with my kiddos when they were that young. Hope that July comes quickly for you!

LB said...

Wow, I'm so glad you are going to be able to stay home full-time!

We'll see you at Vietnam Family Day! Thanks for your work on putting it together for us all!

rachel said...

I totally gotcha ya with the Groundhog's Day reference. Monotony has been my life lately. I love it, but I'm sort of starting to understand that parenting is not just hard because of the actual difficult moments, but because it takes a lot of sacrifice to take care of the tedious things, day after day after day...

That's awesome that you'll be staying home full time. It's hard (back to that monotony thing again) but SOOOO wonderful at the same time.